We all know that spanking is a hotly debated subject and i dont intend to shed another debate on whether it is permissible as a good method of punishment because I firmly believe that IT IS!!!
Just 2 nights ago at a frinds house, with around 9 others mothers there, spanking came up and when some described taking down their kids pants to spank, 1 mother said that it was sexual abuse!
I prefer to actually be able to see the child's bottom when you are spanking it ie to be able to see when the butt has gone pink = enough spanking (if I spanked over lothes, sometimes I might go overboard!)
I dont think the other mommys there agreed with it being abuse, though what they described as spanking was a few swats on the clothes with paddle, spoon, brush or hand.
When I was little I was spanked with 'implements' on my seat (clothed) and I hated it.
I didnt want to spank with an implement, but wanted the spankings to be equally firm, so I decided to use my hand on my childrens bare bottom.
With dd or ds, I warn them and if the warning is not taken on board, then i explain why I am about to spank them, take down their underwear, prop them over my knee and then its 5 spanks to their bums with my 'bare hand.'
Is spanking on the bare OK if done in private?
Have others spanked on the bare bottom and how many swats?