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    My husband and I are opposite personalities almost to the extreme. It's still a struggle for us although we have moments of breakthrough and understanding. I have only read two books that were really beneficial to me and I am sure that there are other out there that speak to other women. I just wanted to put these out there in case they could help someone else like they've helped me. One is specifically for wives and is called "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace. It took a totally different approach to helping me look at my life and my side of the marriage, motherhood, etc. and figure out where I struggle. She bases everything she says on the Bible and follows every point with a number of scriptures that are relevant. The other book is for husbands and wives although you don't have to read it with a spouse. It speaks to the things that a husband wants from a wife and vice versa. It's called "Love and Respect: the love she most desires; the respect he desperately needs." It has a really simple foundation that teaches you to start with yourself and not worry about what the other person is doing. It was really an eye-opener to me because I tend to think that he's not trying to change anything so why should I. Anyway, to all of us struggling in different ways in our marriages...God's peace be on us all.
  2. You're absolutely right about the temptation thing. The Bible does say that we aren't tempted with anything that isn't common to man but that God is faithful and will provide a way out. It also says that God will not let us be tempted beyond what we can bear. Congrats on the weight loss. I know it's a struggle. Keep up the good work.
  3. I wonder if anyone has had a change of opinion on the war since it began. I know that I did. I thought that it would be a good thing at first and that we needed to do it but have changed my mind in the last few years. I still support the soldiers and have family members serving as we speak but am still opposed to the war. I think that we, as Christians are called to support our leaders but that doesn't mean that we are to accept whatever they say and do just because they are our leaders. We have a form of government that is supposed to be based on the people and not on the leaders. The leaders get their power from the people and should be ruled by what the people think. I think that we should defend ourselves as a country but we are spending too much time defending other countries and trying to make sure that different threats don't get a foothold in other places to spend much time fortifying our own country. I think we should spend more time at home worrying about our country here and defending it when the threat is here instead of trying to head off any threat that our government throws out there. I'm struggling with this again as there is talk of going into Iran. I feel like we're back at the same point we were at when we were discussing whether to go into Iraq or not. I don't feel like we made the best decisions with regards to Iraq and I'm afraid that we're going to make some of those same mistakes when it comes to Iran. Another thought that bothers me and I would love some feedback on...why do we feel like we can tell the rest of the world that they can't have a nuclear program when we have one of the best in the world and have no intentions of getting rid of ours? Just a thought that I have. I hope that our leadership will start paying more attention to what is happening here at home and start listening to the people (including many of the soldiers who have come home and talked about the horrors of this war) and not make the same mistakes again by trying to invade Iran when they haven't done anything to us. We need to stop trying to fight everyone else's battles for them.
  4. I've been having trouble going to church as well for various reasons. A lot of the time I have one of the three kids sick or I'm sick, etc. Because my husband leads music every Sunday, he can't take the kids with him so they always end up staying here with me if I'm at home. It's hard to know what to do but I feel like the most important thing for me to do right now is keep reading the Bible with my kids and praying with them and for them. I was trying for a while to get my kids to memorize verses and then that kind of fell by the wayside as things got busier. I'm really wanting to start doing that again. I was amazed at how many verses my 2 year old could memorize. I'm having to focus on those kinds of things until I am able to get back to church more regularly. I understand the struggle and am here for you.
  5. My husband had the same thought about medication being a way to get around God's natural design. I guess I started to feel like I went through plenty of pain before I actually got the epidural so it wasn't as big of a deal to me. I had the epidural (after 7 hours of intense labor at home) with my first child and thought it was wonderful. I opted to not get medication with my second child and was glad that I did it although I wasn't sure I wanted to do it again. I thought I would be able to do that with my third child as well but ended up opting for the epidural because everything was the contractions were so close together and intense and I still hadn't progressed very far. I was disappointed with the decision at first until we realized that something was wrong and they had to do an emergency C-section to get the baby out. It turned out to be a great decision because I was able to just get in there and have the surgery. I have always told other women that I would recommend a mother get an epidural the first time if she's not strongly opposed to it. I know I was more scared because I didn't know what labor was going to be like. It helped to get through the experience mostly pain free and then I was more prepared for the next labor and was able to do it without meds. I also don't think women should put other women down for whatever decision they make. I had other mothers who made me feel like I was less of a woman because i decided to get an epidural with the first child. It was very hard for me to deal with.
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    I personally don't have a problem with alcohol as long as it's consumed in moderation. I think that means different things for different people as different bodies can handle more alcohol than others. I think you just have to be aware of your understanding of the scriptures while making sure not to be a stumbling block to other people. I think that having a beer or glass of wine could actually help you in witnessing to other people. I have had many non-Christian friends who were pleasantly surprised that I didn't have a problem with alcohol and it helped to establish a rapport with them. I have seen the negative effects of alcohol as well though. My aunt struggles with alcoholism and that has been a big issue in my mom's family. My husband and I try not to discuss the fact that we will have a drink in the evenings when we are with my grandparents or my aunt because they do have a problem with that. I think Christians should follow their hearts with this issue but should also allow for the fact that other people might feel led in a different direction than they do and that should be ok as long as there is moderation. I have personally run into many people who will spend a lot of time talking about the evils of alcohol and then turn around and be unloving, gossip, etc. I think we just need to make sure that we are watching some of these other, more subtle things as well.
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    I was baptized as an infant and came to know Christ as a child. I haven't felt the need to be baptized again as I feel like it was just a sign and not salvation. My husband and I have had all three of our kids baptized as babies as well. I have received the Holy Spirit and I believe that happened when I was saved.
  8. It is about 20 minutes from Macon which is between one and two hours south of Atlanta. We love being here because any of our friends who come from Atlanta to Florida stop by and spend the night or say hi. We're pretty close to the interstate.
  9. I am enjoying it so far. I'm still not sure I have the hang of this but I guess that comes with time and practice. I'm glad that you are close...it's nice to talk to people who are in other parts of the country and here at home as well.
  10. I just wanted to introduce myself. I've been married for almost five years to the man of my dreams and we have three wonderful children, one girl and two boys. They are 3.5, 1.5, and 6mos. We just bought an old house in the country and are learning how to make the most of our 2 acres, multiple varieties of fruit trees and pecan trees. God has truly blessed us greatly.

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