After taking a class at church called "Growing Kids Gods Way", my huband and I realized that the first step in providing real "heart training" for our children was to put OUR relationship first. This is not very easy! We TRY to spend 15 minutes on the couch talking, just the 2 of us without interruption every evening soon after he gets home. The girls are present, but quietly occupied with puzzzels or books. We can actually pull this off.... about once a month!!
It IS hard to find time to spend together, but it has gotten easier as our daughters have gotten older( they are 5 and 3). We do not go out alone very often. When we do, we rely on grandparents to help offset the expense by eliminating a costly babysitter.
We are more successful having dates at home, rather than going out. We are very strict with bed times, no later than 8:30pm so we have some quiet time before we both drop. About once a month, I will feed the girls before he gets home and either cook a seperate more adult appealing dinner for just the two of us or order out, and we put the girls to bed early and enjoy ourselves!
This works best on a Friday and I run the kids ragged that day to ensure immediate sleep.
My family lives out of town so whenever we visit them, we plan an evening out with old friends or just the two of us. This is an example of the Grandparent thing, my Mom and my sister are so thrilled to see us that they will take one or both or the girls overnight to spend more time with them.
Get creative!! Hope this has helped!!