Jan A

Glad to know that there are at least a couple of us from So Cal! Blessings!

Sorry to here of your loss! I can;t imagine the pain of loosing a baby that late. DS was a twin, but I lost the twin at 10 weeks 4 days. I didn't even know there WAS a twin before that. Praying that God uses this part of your path to help someone else.

As you may know from reading my bio, I am currently experiencing SI (Secondary Infertility). I have been blessed to find 2 IF (Infertility) sites that are Christian based. One is about to move, but is a promising young site preparing to offer support to both men and women seeking Christian support as they experience IF. The other is a highly established site, founded by the other of the book "Hannah's Hope: Seeking God's Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage and Adoption Loss"- Jennifer Saake. Both offer support to people in all stages on IF, including new to IF, long term, Adoption/Foster, ARTS, TTC Naturally, TTC after loss, and many others. (TTC is Trying to Conceive.) The young site (where I MOD the SI and Mommyhood forums) is http://z15.invisionfree.com/ChristianIF/index.php?act=idx The other is http://hannahsprayer.org/board As much as I pray that someone here will find solace and reassurance in finding these sites, I pray more that NONE OF YOU ever really need to find a site like these. IF is a miserable path to travel. Did you know that the stress infertility places on a family is akin to the stress experienced by cancer patients and their families? Do you know that the emotional process is similar to the grief experienced when a spouse dies? Sad but true! Please don't take pity, or try to empathize if you have not suffered IF, as most IFers are only further hurt by some of these efforts. Before IF, I didn't realize how insensitive the most genuinely caring remark came across. I do not mean to bring any of you down, only to provide possible support to those that need to feel connected.

Meghan-I think I recognize you from the other Christian board. I too am a SAHM and TTC #2 since 5/06. Blessings and glad to meet you (again I think)!

I was raised in a home with a Church going Mom and a stay home on Sunday Dad. I was baptized at 8 years old, but didn't really come to know Christ until 10 years later. Ironically, though i had co-founded a Christian Club on my public High School campus during my Sr. year, it was this same year that I really came to question my faith for the first time. Though everything I said and did still "seemed Christian", my Uncle Scott saw through my facade and brought me back the the Lord just 2 days before he passed away. About 2 years later I started dating my now husband that I had met through church. At the time we started dating I asked a lot about what he believed and his level of faith. I was IN LOVE... and then about 4 1/2 years into our dating relationship, he declared he wasn't certain of his beliefs anymore. I was devastated! I prayed and prayed about what to do. I really loved him, but knew that I shouldn't marry someone unequally yoked to myself. Then I'd thought "Well what if we had been the couple that married the moment we were in love? Would I leave him because of this?" and I found my answer "1Cor 7:13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14 For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him. 16 You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you." I realized that I would not have left him, nor SHOULD I have left him. about 2 years later we FINALLY got married. 13 months and 1 day later, our DS was born. When DS turned 12 months, we stopped preventing. When he was 17 months we actually started trying to conceive #2. We are now at 19 months of trying, and 5 months of IF assistance. I am hoping that there are other Mom's here that can relate to my life's journey so far. I pray that this will be a place to find spiritual growth and support. Thank you for reading my intro; I know it was a bit long and ramblely.