strong willed daughter
I have a 4 year old daughter and completely understand where you are coming from. She was a wonderful baby (not a preemie by the way) even sleeping through the night at less than 8 weeks. What a surprise when she was almost 2 and started showing symptoms of her strong will. I am a young mother ( I had her when I was 19) and married but I have had so many people treat me like she was this way because I just didn't know what I was doing with her. Those closest to me, wspecially my mom, had always seen me discipline her, and just couldn't understand why she was always so difiant. Things have gotten a little better since she turned about 3 1/2 but she still decides on occasion to push every single button I have until I lose it. I have gone throught the range of emotions, from embarresment, rage, discouragement, loneliness, and most of all the feelings of failure. No one expects a well disciplined child to behave this way and those who do not have children like this can be so cruel in their comments and attitudes. I have even had problems at church with people making comments to me like " If you would work with her at home perhaps she would sit better or behave more". People just simply do not understand that it has less to do with you than it does with your childs undeniably strong will. I feel for you and have come to realize that all we can do is try and pray and depend on God. Realizing that some days will be wonderful, when your child surprises you behaving like an angel and other days will be absolutely horrible leaving you reduced to tears of frustration because of another fight of wills.