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    I'm back

    I'm back after a very stressful summer. This summer saw a lot of changes in my house and family. My husband has had a huge awakening from God. God really started convicting his heart about his role as a husband and parent. He actually apologized to me for his selfishness in our relationship. WOW! He has been so much more compassionate with our kids and realizes how his example affects them. We still have our 2 foster boys and will hopefully get an idea of how long they will be with us after their Termination of Parental Rights hearing at the end of this month. Dakota is doing well with his disabilities and has come a long way in trying to catch up developmentally in spite of having Down's. My husband and I went to a healing service by an evangelist from our church and my shoulder was healed after being in pain since my car accident in 1998. This was really big for me. I have had such limited range of motion and lack of strength that has been restored to me. Praise God. I'm trying to keep this as short as I can, but hope to share more in the near future. I have missed you all very much and look forward to being back in the fold.
  2. Just wanted to post a message to let you all know that I am having to take a break from this site for the summer. I will still try to check in when I can, but won't be able to post very much until school starts up again. I will pick up where I left off on the Praying Wife posts at that time as well. I didn't want anyone to think that I simply left and wasn't coming back. Things are really crazy here with my kids, foster kids, daycare, my health, my sister coming home from Belize, Central America, etc. I just don't have the time to keep in touch, even though I know that I need the contact. God bless you all.
  3. His Integrity Integrity is not what you appear to be when all eyes are on you. It's who you are when no one is looking. It's a level of morality below which you never fall, no matter what's happening around you. It's a high standard of honesty, truthfulness, decency, and honor that is never breached. It's doing for others the way you would want them to do for you. A man of integrity says something and means it. He doesn't play verbal games so you never really know where he stands. He will keep his word even if it costs him something to do it. When placed in a possibly compromising situation, he will continue to stand strong in what he believes. The Bible says, "The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him". Proverbs 20:7. Whether your children fully recognize it or not, they will receive a heritage from their father's adherence to the principles of high moral integrity. There are blessings they will enjoy because of the kind of man he is. Integrity happens in the heart. Therefore, being a man of integrity is something your husband must choose to do on his own. But you can prayerfully help him fight the enemy that seeks to snare him, blind him, and keep him from making that decision. Even when he makes the right choice, there will be a negative reaction to it in the realm of evil. Your prayers can help shield him from anything that causes him to doubt and waver, and give him strength to do what's right, even when no one's looking.
  4. I am a very busy WAHM. I have 3 kids, 2 fosterkids, and 11 daycare kids. I would not trade being at home for anything. I think after my kids are older, I might stop doing daycare and do something that allows me to have flexible hours so I can still be home as much as possible.
  5. My first one didn't get a great reaction as I was 21 and unmarried. My second one my husband and I took the pregnancy test together in the bathroom. I told my family by giving my sister a b-day from my son saying that he was going to be a big brother. Everyone was very excited. For my third one, I didn't tell my husband until after I had it comfirmed at the clinic. I bought a cute little baby girl outfit and gavie it to him with an early father's day card. With all three of mine, I knew immediately what the sex was, before I even had my first doctor appt. Have any of you had the same experience??
  6. I just got notice that the termination trial for our 2 foster boys is set for July 20th. We are just praying that God's will be done for these boys and their parents. Their parents still do not see that they have done anything wrong or that their drug use affected their boys. Between the two parents, they have already either abandoned or had taken away 7 other children. I would appreciate any of you that can, to join us in this prayer. Lord, I lift these boys and their parents up to you. You alone can make the changes that are needed in their lives. You can intervene with the parents and open their eyes to the precious gift that you gave them. I pray that your will be done and that you can help guide me in seeing to their needs as long as they are in my care. Amen!
  7. Lord, I lift your name on High, Lord, I thank you for my wonderful, supportive family. I thank you for always being there for me, on the days when I am in too much pain to go on, for being the single set of footprints in the sand, carrying me in your safe and loving arms.
  8. This brings to mind a story our pastor was telling yesterday about a pastor he had replaced at his former church. The old pastor believed that computers were the work of the devil and no Christian should have anything to do with them. After our pastor told us this, he looked at the congregation and said: I'm not sure how that works, because Candy, who teaches our teen class, spends her entire day working on computers as a repair technician and she has grown more spiritually in this past year than anyone he knows. His point was that sometimes churches start a belief and then it carries on, whether it should or not. I do know that our church, Assemblies of God, does not allow divorced pastors and follows the biblical guidelines of divorce. That only in cases of being married to an unbeliever or being married to an unfaithful spouse is divorce allowed. I'm not real clear on their stance toward re-marraige though. Having been the subject of much judgement myself, I am very sorry for what you and your husband are going through. God will see you through this if you both remain faithful to him.
  9. It's funny that you mention gardening. I love to garden, but I get frustrated feeling like I don't get out there often enough. I love to be out in my veggie garden alone listening to the birds and just spending time in the presence of God and his creation. With having fibromyalgia it's harder for me to take care of my garden, but I feel refreshed after being out in the plants. Also, I love to share the overabundance with friends that can't garden. As moms we have to make time to spend with God and this has been my one place that I can be alone with God, talking to Him and more importantly, listening to Him. With having kids, I find myself getting distracted away from God, but yet this is a time in my life when I really need Him with me every step of my day. God's creation is such a wondrous, miraculous place to be in. I thank God for entrusting us with the responsibility of taking care of it.
  10. What a great question. I can't wait to see everyone's answers. For me, I think the main key is your approach to begin with. What is your purpose in being married? Why did you marry this particular person? If you get married with the thought, What do I get out of this? you will fail. You need to come into marriage thinking, What can I do for this person? What do I bring to this marriage that will make it through the tough times? Marriage is one of the hardest, but most rewarding committment anyone can make. But, as the Bible says, it requires each person to give up their own selfish needs and motivation and look out for the needs of the other person. I have found it is very hard to give up my wants and examine my own motivation in wanting to always be right and have things be my way. I have had to learn, very slowly mind you, that lots of prayer time with God is the only thing that has kept us together. The more I change myself and my approach, the better our marriage is and the more he responds in kind and changes towards me. I don't know if this is what you are looking for, but these are just my thoughts. Also you might want to read the threads about The Praying Wife. This book has really helped me to change the way I look at my husband and my marriage. I will be praying for your sister-in-law. This is a real tough area to get through.
  11. His Trials Everyone goes through hard times. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes our prayers help us to avoid them. Sometimes not. It's the attitude we have when we go throught them that matters most. If we are filled with anger and bitterness, or insist on complaining and blaming God, things tend to turn out badly. If we go through them with thankfulness and praise to God, He promises to bring good things despite them. A wife's prayers for her husband during these times may not change some of the things he must go through. After all, if we never suffered anything, what kind of shallow, compassionless, impatient people would we be? But, prayer can help him maintain a positive outlook of gratitude, hope, patience, and peace in the midst of it and keep him from reaping the penalty of a wrong response. Wheter it feels like it or not, when we serve God, His love attends every moment of our lives - even the toughest, loneliest, most painful and desperate. He is always there in our midst, working things out for good when we pray and look to Him to do so. His purpose for our trials is often to bring us humbly before Him to experience a breaking in our inner, independent, self-sufficient selves, and grow us up into compassionate, patient, spiritually strong, God-glorifying people. If your husband is going through a difficult time, carry it in prayer, but don't carry the burden. Even though you may want to, don't try to take away his load and make it yours. That will ultimately leave him feeling weak or like a failure. Besides, God doesn't want you doing His job. He doesn't want you trying to be the Holy Spirit to your husband. You can pray, encourage, and support, but God uses trials for His purpose and you must stay out of His way. Trials can be a purifying fire and a cleansing water. You don't want your husband to get burned or drowned; you want him to get refined and renewed. It's the determination of your husband to stand strong in faith and wait for God to answer his prayers that will save him from the heat and stay afloat.
  12. Jessica, What you said brought to mind a passage from The Purpose Driven Life. He says that worship is not for us, but for God. The purpose of worshiping is to show God how much we love him and believe in him. Too often I think we take a selfish view of worship, What do I get out of worship?, instead of What am I showing God?
  13. Welcome to our group. My husband and I have 3 kids and 2 foster kids, we have already had 3 foster kids be adopted and are hoping our 2 will be next. What a blessing you were able to adopt!
  14. Heather, How are you doing by now? My husband just found out that he has the same type of injury from a car accident years ago. He is trying therapy to see if that will heal the injury, otherwise he may have to have surgery as well.
  15. Update Well we have had some good news and some bad news. The good news is that the surgery he had to repair the 2 holes in his heart have healed fine, the bad news is that he has 2 values that are leaking quite a bit. He has to go back in 3 months to check and see if it has changed, he may have to have another surgery to fix/replace the valves. We are continuing to pray for God's intervention in his life. The county has filed for termination of parental rights, the initial hearing is Monday and then the judge will set a trial date. I just keep praying that God's will be done for these boys.

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