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  1. Hon, I am on the flip side of this. But I can relate to what you are feeling. I went for 5 years (in my first marriage) with infertility. In my 2nd marriage I told my husband that I may not be able to have children. We put it into gods hands and I believe that is the only reason I have 2 beautiful children today. After my son was born, we both decided that we were done having children, we have a boy and a girl, so we felt complete. I still couldn't convience myself on having a tubal, and opted for an IUD. Fast foward to now and we just had a pregnancy scare. No AF in 2 months, waking up sick in the morning for a few weeks, and an adversion to potatos (just like with the other 2 kids) had us anxious. I bought a test and it was neg. So we are really wondering if we should go ahead and do the tubal. We say yes, because we have talked about financially being able to raise our family and also my health would be a concern since I am diabetic. We are content with the family we have, so I don't understand why I have the uneasy feeling about a tubal. I guess it just makes it all feel so final. I did tell my husband that if God wants us to have another child there ain't no birth control or tubal going to stop it! I am sure that God can help you through this situation. Just keep looking to him for guidance! As women I think we all have that motherly instinct and feel the need to bear children. Even more so when we realize the power of god in our lives. Take Care, Melissa
  2. I got this in my email too. Maybe seeing it again is God telling me something! Melissa
  3. This is so inspiring, I hope that I am allowed to share! You can read more about Nick at http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org. As you read this are you feeling sorry for yourself or are you thanking GOD for what you do have.As we go thru life we all have problems we have to take with some hurt or anger.None of us are born perfect,but some think they are.I thank GOD for all he has given me and what he has taken away.This young man has the best attitude of anyone I've seen in a long time. A TRULY AWESOME STORY ! ! ! ! ! My name is Nick Vujicic and I give God the Glory for how He has used my testimony to touch thousands of hearts around the world! I was born without limbs and doctors have no medical explanation for this birth "defect". As you can imagine, I was faced with many challenges and obstacles. "Consider it pure joy, my Brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds." ......To count our hurt, pain and struggle as nothing but pure joy? As my parents were Christians, and my Dad even a Pastor of our church, they knew that verse very well. However, on the morning of the 4th of December 1982 in Melbourne(Australia), the last two words on the minds of my parents was "Praise God!". Their firstborn son had been born without limbs! There were no warnings or time to prepare themselves for it. The doctors we shocked and had no answers at all! There is still no medical reason why this had happened and Nick now has a Brother and Sister who were born just like any other baby. The whole church mourned over my birth and my parents were absolutely devastated. Everyone asked, "if God is a God of Love, then why would God let something this bad happen to not just anyone, but dedicated Christians?" My Dad thought I wouldn't survive for very long, but tests proved that I was a healthy baby boy just with a few limbs missing. "And we know that in all things God works for the best for those who love Him." That verse spoke to my heart and convicted me to the point where that I know that there is no such thing as luck, chance or coincidence that these "bad" things happen in our life. I had complete peace knowing that God won't let anything happen to us in our life unless He has a good purpose for it all.I completely gave my life to Christ at the age of fifteen after reading John 9. Jesus said that the reason the man was born blind was "so that the works of God may be revealed through Him." I truly believed that God would heal me so I could be a great testimony of His Awesome Power. Later on I was given the wisdom to understand that if we pray for something, if it's God's will, it'll happen in His time. If it's not God's will for it to happen, then I know that He has something better. I now see that Glory revealed as He is using me just the way I am and in ways others can't be used. I am now twenty-three years old and have completed a Bachelor of Commerce majoring in Financial Planning and Accounting. I am also a motivational speaker and love to go out and share my story and testimony wherever opportunities become available. I have developed talks to relate to and encourage students through topics that challenge today's teenagers. I am also a speaker in the corporate sector. I have a passion for reaching out to youth and keep myself available for whatever God wants me to do, and wherever He leads, I follow. I have many dreams and goals that I have set to achieve in my life. I want to become the best witness I can be of God's Love and Hope , to become an international inspirational speaker and be used as a vessel in both Christian and non-Christian venues. I want to become financially independent by the age of 25, through real estate investments, to modify a car for me to drive and to be interviewed and share my story on the " Oprah Winfrey Show "! Writing several best-selling books has been one of my dreams and I hope to finish writing my first by the end of the year. It will be called "No Arms, No Legs, No Worries!" I believe that if you have the desire and passion to do something, and if it's God's will, you will achieve it in good time. As humans, we continually put limits on ourselves for no reason at all! What's worse is putting limits on God who can do all things. We put God in a "box". The awesome thing about the Power of God, is that if we want to do something for God, instead of focusing on our capability, concentrate on our availability for we know that it is God through us and we can't do anything without Him. Once we make ourselves available for God's work, guess whose capabilities we rely on? God's! May the Lord Bless you In Christ, Nick Vujicic "Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be UNDERSTOOD" So tell me now?. Did I hear you say, I cant???????????? ????????? ???????
  4. Has anyone read: "Created To Be His Helpmeet" By Debi Pearl, or anything by the Pearl family? I get their No Greater Joy magazine in the mail, but I don't know enought about them and have heard bad comments about them on the internet. Especially over the "Train Up A Child" books. Thanks, Melissa
  5. I don’t know where to begin! I don't want anyone to think that I am trying to talk bad about my husband, because he is a really great guy, but like all marriages, we have our ups and downs. The problem, he is very jealous. One of my best friends is moving back to our area in January and my husband doesn’t like it one bit. She moved away just after my husband and I got married, so I didn’t have any of my close friends around to do things with. Dh said today that I wasn’t going to be going to her house very often, and I am not going to be her taxi. The situation occurred because she sent me pictures of her pets, since my dd is scared of dogs, so that I could show her and get her used to the idea of them. He said that was stupid of her and that dd wouldn’t be around them that much anyway. I told him that we were going to see each other but that it probably would only be a few times a month. I don’t know what makes Dh act this way. She has been my friend for a long time, she is also friends with my ex husband, So maybe that’s it. I haven’t talked to my ex in years, and I don’t plan on it now. I don’t drink or do drugs, we are good church going people. I just want to have my husband AND my friend too and I want things to go smoothly. How do I handle it when situations like this come up? I want to submit to him like God wants me too, but I think that he is not being fair about it. I should be able to have friends and I should be able to do things outside of my marriage with out feeling guilty about it, right? He said that I am letting her cause problems in our relationship, but it looks like it’s him. This is not the first time we have been down this road. Last year she was planning to move back, and my husband went to our pastor and told him that he thought it would come between us. Our pastor told him that he could not controll me and that he could only suggest that we set specific limits that we could both agree with. I love my husband and he is a great father to our kids, I just want him to loosen his grip on me because it is pushing me away. Thanks for reading. Melissa
  6. What is the disease that he has? My mother recentally was told that she has pulminary disease and COPD and may eventually have to have a lung transplant later in life. The dr told her that she has probalby had it all of her life too and was never diagnosed. I haven't ever delt with anything like this either, but I am praying for your family too. With love, Melissa
  7. This is the first year that we have played Santa with our kids. They were so young, that we didn't really address it the past few years. We talked about how we were going to do it this year and my husband said that he saw no harm in it. We let our children pretend, watch Barney, Blues Clues and Dora, and Santa doesn't seem to be much different. We are incorporating Santa into our Christian christmas, because our kids know that Chiristmas is just a big birthday party for Jesus. Santa is just there to help with all of the presents. I told the kids that god loves them so much he wants to give them presents on his birthday, because he enjoys giving more than recieving. That has made my 4 year old very excited about picking out presents for others. I see no point in telling them when they are so young. It may hurt other children that they know if they tell them and just causes alot of confusion for the kids that do get to believe. I think believing in santa bring out the best in all of us, because it reminds us so much of the love of god. It's hard to put into words, but this year seems to be one of the best christmas seasons for me. Melissa
  8. I am in a delima. We have been at our current church for about 3 + years. I really do love the church where I am, but there really isn’t a lot of growth. My husband applied for several positions and was always turned away, but then the position was given to someone else within. I am the helper in our preschool Sunday school class and our class is down to 3 (2 of the kids are my 2 yr old son and the teachers 2 year old son). Some weeks it is me teaching my own kids, and my daughter is at the age (4) where she would rather have someone besides her own mom teach her. I feel stuck right now, because I don’t feel the spirit as strongly as I once did at this church. I love the church and the people, but I feel like we should move on, and it makes me feel really guilty. I feel guilty that if we leave, then we would also be contributing to the decline of people at the church. My husband doesn’t feel lead to move to a different church, and I feel like as the head of the house, he should be the one to make that decision. I feel like staying in this church isn’t helping me spiritually though. We went to my MIL’S church this morning, and I really do like it there. There is a nursery for my 2 year old, and a good preschool class for my 4 year old, and finally I get to go to Sunday school with the adults! It has been about a year since I have been in an adult class. They also have children’s church during the 11am service and I really think this is so important for the kids and adults alike. We have been to this church a few times, and the more I go, the more I like it. I know the pastor really well also. We were co-workers at one time. My MIL and FIL support me and understand how I feel, but my husband hasn’t budged yet. I want to be submissive and do this as a family. I just don’t know what to do yet. I don’t have any clear answers from God yet either. Melissa
  9. Let me update everyone. She went to her hearing and they posponed it I guess, because they still don't know what they are going to do on her case. After that, she went to the hospital. They did blood work etc and said she was very healthy, but she only weighed 89lbs. She talked to a counsler while she was there and she said it helped her alot. She also said she belived God was at work in her because she was so afraid of being put into the hospital and being away from her kids. She said this helped her to see that she needs to work on it so that she won't have to be torn from her family. Thank you all for your prayers and support. I know anytime there is a trouble or need I can call on my girls at these boards for support! With love, Melissa
  10. This is long, so please bear with me!!! I want to write you today and ask for your prayers and support for my friend Lynette. We were great friend from high school, and now that each of us are close to (and entering) our 30’s we have since moved apart (she in Virginia and I in Kentucky) and have married and have children. We both suffered a divorce, and remarriage, having 2 children and the ups and downs of married life. We both dedicated our lives to christ, and she and her husband moved away from Ky so that he could join the music ministry of their new church. Life seems great, but there were things that surfaced. Her husband was brought up in a home of a very different religion (JW) and it was a hard conversion for him. He struggled with growing up as an only child and had a difficult time with porn. After he and Lynette were married, it wasn’t an issue and it stopped. They got into church and everything was fine, then some of his friends entered it back into his life. Lynette found out about it, and it literally crushed her. She has always been a beautiful person, but it really tore into her self esteem. She was always very small in high school and never weighed more than 115-125 lbs. When she had her DD she weighed 150lbs. When she found out about the internet she weighed about 158 lbs and she thought it was about her. She went on a diet and started to lose weight. They worked out their problems and are still together, but she is fighting to live at only 94 lbs. She had obsessed about her self so much that she became anorexic and wouldn’t eat. She is admitting herself in to the hospital today for inpatient care. There is so much more to the story than that. She said she almost went crazy, and I know a lot stems from her past as well. It isn’t just what her husband did. She got fired from her job because she used her work bank account to pay some of her bills. It ate at her and she confessed. She spent 4 days in jail and has a court hearing today to see if she will have to go back. She can never work in accounting again and has ruined her reputation in her community. She could also lose her DD if her EH ever finds out about her jail time. This is not the Lynette that I know. She used to be the “goody,goody girl” growing up, and would never do things like this. I just know she needs all of the prayers she can get, so that she can get better. It seems like the harder we try to be good and please god, the more satan tries to interfere. I really am glad that she is taking a step and trying to get help for her eating disorter. Thanks for your prayers, Melissa
  11. Does anyone one else out there suffer from emotional eating or a eating disorter? How do you cope? I have come to terms that I suffer from both. It is so hard and my husband says,"Just don't eat," but I can't seem to stop. It is hard for someone who isn't overweight to understand. It is so much harder than anything that I have ever done before in my life. We have to eat, unlike drinking and smoking etc. My husband and I stopped smoking about 3 years ago, but this is hard, because I can't stop eating! Does anyone have any good scripture that you go to for weight loss, etc??? I have read some different christian diet books (Weigh Down Diet, Thin Within,etc) and they all have a lot of good scripture. I did have a small revelation today. My husband and I had a small spat, and there I was, thinking of what I was going to eat (to comfort my hurt) and I caught myself (first time I realized it) and said, "no, I am not going to eat anything! All of the emotion that I was feeling (and wanting to cover up)came out, and I just stood there in the bathroom and cried. It was good to have that kind of revelation, and I thank god so much for it. Melissa
  12. I know where you are comming from hon! It will all get better. Our family is going throught this too. My husband works from 12-8:30p. I thought I would like this shift better, but I don't. I also feel like he is gone too long too. His company went through a major change, and his old position was done away with, so I should be happy that he still has a job, and I am. He likes his new position but he just wishes he had different hours. Our kids were used to thier dad being home in the evenings, and our 2 year old son is still trying to adjust. His won't go to bed until after daddy is at home, which is after 9pm. I just keep in mind that this is "only for a season" and that things may change. I don't work through the week now, and only work on Sat and Sun. (the only days that he is off work) but that helps us not have to pay for child care. Hubby's days are filled because he goes to school on Wed mornings, and then on Fri or Sat morning he mows yards. I believe husbands believe if they are "providing" income for the family, that this is what matters. In reality, we would just like for them to be there more! If you think about it, the season is almost up for mowing to stop, and also I bet your husband will be playing golf less too. Just be sure to give him his free day to be with his friends, or he will feel controlled, and that's not what you want. If there is any way possible, could you and your husband readjust your schedules any to spend time together? I used to try to fix supper through the week, but now I will fix breakfast in the mornings for my hubby instead. We also have started walking in the mornings as well, so that gives us some time too. I hope this helps! Sorry its so long! Take Care, Melissa
  13. I have the Weigh Down Diet book too. I really like what it says. I feel like the best method is giving it all to god. I quit smoking 3 years ago this way. When I would get a craving, I would just pray and pray and pray! I have learned that with food it is so much harder. We have to eat, unlike drinking or smoking. If I try to do things in my own skin, I fail. Also, I know my lifestyle has to change, for good, so that is another thing I have problems with. I did jot down some of the scriptures that she used in her book, and writing them down for me does seem to make it stick a little better in my mind. I am going to have to run out to the car and get that book!!! LOL! Mel
  14. One thing that worked for my mom when I was a kid was this. When some kids would come over to my house to play, they would always want to play the video games. My mom suggested this, she said put away the games and tell them that you have to go outside to play, so I did. They didn't stay around, they were only comming over so they could play the games. So when the boy comes by, tell them that they cannot play on the computer, xbox, or anything else. It could be that he wants to just use your son for these type of things? I hope that isn't the case, but it could be. Everyones comments are soooo great. I hope you the best of luck. Mel
  15. This is long! Jen, that is sooo wonderful! Isn't it so much more fufilling to wait on the Lord??? We had a similar situation happen to use about a year and a half ago. I found a house that was empty, and no for rent sign had been put out or anything. It was a parsonage, so they usually rent for very low. We made some calls to the church that was directly beside it and got to look at it. My SIL and I looked at it "just to see" and it needed lots of TLC. It had old wall paper and needed alot of fresh paint and updating, but I could invision our family living there. It felt like a place I could call home. It was just the perfect size as well. 3 bd rooms 1 bath a large eat in kitchen and a walk out basement and patio. Also a small building for storage. My husband thought it was too far from town, and didn't want to look at it. So I turned to god and started praying, Lord, if this is the house that you've ment for us, then lay it on my husbands heart. A few weeks later one of the decons called us back and said the house had been remodeled and wanted to know if we wanted to see it again. I think something was stirring in his heart, because he went to take a look. We both loved it. It had fresh paint and new french doors. And the old wall paper was gone from the kitchen. They said they had spent $4000 in repairs and paint to the house. The rent was only $400 a month, the deposit was high ($800) but that was because they wanted to get someone who was going to take care of the house and maybe be calm, lol. If it would have been any other time of the year, we wouldn't have had the money, but it was income tax time, and we had our refund, so we got the house and have been living there since. You know Jen, this may even be a double blessing for me because I have been wanting to buy a house, but it is so expensive. We know if we buy we will probably have a higher payment and a smaller home. So this reaffirms the blessing that the lord gave us. Dear Lord, I pray for Jen and her family. I pray that you can give her exactally what you know she and her family needs. I pray that this house will work out in her favor. I just feel like this is a blessing from you Lord, I feel like you have brough her family to this place. Thank you so much lord for who you are and all that you do. Amen. Take Care, Melissa

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