I've been married 5 years. From the begining my husband would make comments on how i could better myself. The same things i did wrong 5 years ago i still do wrong. I feel i have made a good effort in trying to change bad habits, running the water too much, taking to hot of a shower, using the dryer to much,not cleaning up after supper soon enough, on and on and. The weird thing is that i thouhgt i was wasteful and everthing was my fault. I would tell him i was sorry and that i would work on it. There would always be something new i would be doing wrong. Until i become a christian and started realizing that marriage isn't suppose to be so hurtful. Thats it's suppose to more like friends. He keeps telling me he needs to be in charege of all things and i have to submit. I feel things aren't going to get better, i have been praying and have reached out for help. We will be starting couseling with our pastor, but I'm worried that my husband won't be honest. I'm so sad that our marriage has come to this. If i didn't have god with me, i would lose my mind. Please Pray for me,i want to move past this difficult time in my life. We have three beautiful children.