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  1. Update!! Praise the Lord! We were able to get the loan. He has once again provided for us. Thank you for your prayers and encouragement.
  2. Hello, Heather. You do not deserve to be verbally abused. My heart goes out to you. Many people, sometimes even our own husbands don't understand motherhood. It is a hard job to do and I believe the most important job ever, after all we are raising the next generation, right? I agree with Kim in that find out what does he want you to do specifically? what exactly does he think you're doing wrong? My comment about praying. That should be you're first resort to turn to in everything. This is a powerful tool that God has given us. Sometimes we don't see our prayers being answered, but that does not mean He is not listening or doesn't care. I learned for myself this way. While I was praying for changes in others, like my hubby, nothing happened. For a while I doubted in the power of prayer. Don't just pray for what we want and who we want to change. Prayer for changing someone in your life, should start with praying that God change you first. I'm not saying there's something wrong with you. But sometimes God can reveal to us things that we ourselves do not see. In order to change others we must change ourselves. I used to pray "Oh God, help my husband to love me this way and that, help him to appreciate me more, to stop hurting me....and so on." Of course those were valid prayers, however, once I started praying, "O Lord, show me my ways, shape me and mold me to be who you want me to be so that I may glorify you and love my husband the way he needs to be loved"...and of course I'd say a prayer for him. this may be hard to do, but God wants us to submit and humble ourselves before Him. I agree with you, you're marriage won't work if both parties are not willing to work at it. If you talk to him until you're blue in the face and he still doesn't listen, after all the councilling and he's still stubborn you're only hope is, and was always, God and prayer. Do not give up. God created marriage to be a life long commitment, and it does take work. God bless you.
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    I have to say that when I became a born again Christian, and when I was baptized shortly after, no one told me how it would or should feel like. I thought that I would feel an incredible feeling come over me, I thought I would get totally emotional, a sign that that Holy Spirit had come to me. I was disappointed though, b/c all i felt was wet. I mean, I knew what baptism was and why I was doing it. I just didn't really know what to feel afterwards, know what I mean? Afterwards, I thought, that maybe i didn't receive the Holy Spirit b/c of something I felt or thought was not geniuneMaybe I didn't believe hard enough. Wasn't I suppose to feel, holier, pure, very spiritual? It took me awhile to understand. Praise to God. He showed me the truth. He showed me the difference between baptism of water and baptism of the Holy Spirit. He was always with me, even when I never felt His presence. Anyway, this would be a long story, rather, my testimony, that should be postd elsewhere. But, about my baptism, I wish someone would have told me how it would be afterwards or how I was suppose to feel or not feel and what it meant or not mean. KWIM?
  4. I am most definitely sure there's a definition for "Christian," but for me it's to follow Christ, to become like Christ, to live for Christ, and to be share Christ with others.
  5. I think it's great! My kids love VT....I do too I saw somewhere where the creator, Phil Vischer was being interviewed. He said that although they can't really show the end, you know, where Bob and Larry come out and read a Bible verse, on TV, it's a great outreach to little kids. When those kids see VT at the store they'll recognize and perhaps buy the movies and see the entire message. Something like that, anyway.
  6. Hi, Lisa. Well, first of all, good for you both b/c you guys are taking the first step. I don't really have any devotions in mind but while you're looking for one I can give you some ideas: 1. The most important thing is to pray, pray, pray together. Bring everything to God, whatever it is between the two of you. 16 Rejoice always, 17 pray without ceasing, 18 in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 16 Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. James 5:16 2. Forgive. Forgive as God has forgiven us. Whatever anger or resentment or hurt you have between the two of you, you can not "turn it around" unless you forgive. 29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32 3. Love. CHOOSE to love. Love isn't a feeling. Love is an act. I'm glad that you and your hubby are choosing to work at it, like I said that's the first step. I read a book, maybe you've heard of it, "the five love languages." It has some tips on how to identify your spouse's love language and what you can do to make him feel loved. Maybe the two of you can read it, together or seperately, and discuss what you need from him and vice versa. 4. If you have a pastor, or a couple who's more spiritually mature and who you look up to, you can seek their help as well. Like I said, I don't have an exact devotional for you but I would like to recommend some of Dennis and Barbara Rainey's materials. When my hubby and I were newly weds we had Sunday classes based on some of their materials. We also attended a conference called A Weekend to Remember. Wonderful conference, great speakers. Maybe you can look it up and see if they'll have one near by so you and hubby can attend. http://www.familylife.com/conferences/default.asp?lid=Interior+Conferences Hope you find what you're looking for
  7. I am also interested in looking for extra income. I've looked at most of these websites posted and they all seem great. But I've also been looking at data entry. What are your opinions, experiences(if any) and where can I find legitimate online data entry that someone can do at home?
  8. This is a tough subject to discuss. Many parents have many ways, and good ways, to discipline their children. I think that the word "rod" in the Bible means any kind of discipline. As long as you discipline them with love. I also agree that times have obviously changed from Bible times. And of course, we cannot do everything the people in the Bible did. However, we can read and study and apply, or learn from them. I guess in the end, people will just have to respect how parents discipline their own children. There's no right or wrong way of discipline as long as there's no abuse. The key word in all of this is discipline and I think that's what we're all striving for.
  9. I've never really meditated before. I would always pray and read the Bible, but recently it's been on my mind, and I believe God is telling me this. I've listened to a couple of podcasts from my favorite pastors and read a book and they have encouraged me and helped me get started. Meditation, I believe, will help me be more calm about everything, help me to learn to discipline my mind (thoughts), and most importantly help me learn how to listen to the Good Lord. I am curious about how you ladies meditate, when, and where. Do you meditate on God's word or do you just sit quietly with a blank mind? Do you think about things that God has done for you or in you? I started a couple of days ago. It's hard b/c things just keep me busy and at the end of the day, i'm so tired, and in the morning I'm still tired and by the time the tiredness goes away, my day starts with "mommy! Mommy!" Please pray that I discipline myself , make time, and continue to meditate and ponder on the words of God. May
  10. I think the point is, that from pain children learn their lesson. Unless they're stubborn and strong willed. As a kid who wouldn't want to get spanked. I understand how some parents don't want to discipline their kids with corporal punishment. I believe that all loving parent don't want to spank their kids. But sometimes it does work...and sometimes it doesn't, which means you have to find other ways of discipline. And if other ways work, more power to you It would be great if other ways of disciplining worked on ALL kids, but sometimes they don't. I also believe that there are guidelines to follow if you do choose to spank. For example, spank on the bottom only, spank with a calm mind, let them know why they were spanked, and embrace the child afterwards to show that you love them. Oh, and kids do grow out of spanking so I don't believe in spanking your kids at an older age. Anyway, I am all for disciplining your kids the way that fits both you and your child, and with love, even if it may cause some discomfort. Disciplining isn't about what the kids want (kids never want to get spanked) and what feels good, right?
  11. I for one spank my kids. I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as it does not cause any bruising or scars, that then would become abuse. Usually after a spanking, I sit down and tell them why and then have him tell me why, just so that I know he understands. Here's something from Dr. James Dobson which I agree: http://family.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/family.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=770 But of course, spanking doesn't work with all kids.
  12. My four year old had a similar thing. Except it was always joke, but embarrassing all the same. He would say "Oh, my weenee!" He even did it once at the store. But I told him that it was not very polite and that I didn't like it. It took a couple of tries, but he stopped. I don't know what you said to your son, but with my 4 year old and his older brother who's 6, I said that the "wee wee" is a private part and that theirs was no one's business, and other people's private parts were none of theirs, and again that it was not polite. If they had any questions then they come and ask me or their dad. We had this talk while talking about keeping away from strangers.
  13. No, I'm surrounded by believers. But my heart does go out to those who are not believers and are not saved. The person below me loves to read and reads a favorite book over and over.
  14. Last night my 6 year old had a soccer game. He's usually pretty good b/c he's fast. But as a goaly (spelling?), well, lets just say he needs practice. My husband was not happy and started to lecture him at the end, and kind of raising his voice...not too bad though. I gave my hubby a look kinda like "cool down a little". then in the car he lectured and lectured and so on. I mentioned it to him in a whisper that maybe he should ease off a little. I said that he just needs practice. What would you have done? Would you let you hubby keep at it? Defend you child while he's lecturing (or yelling) at him? or what? I was thinking to myself that I didn't want to confront him, not in front of my children b/c he is the "man of the house". I didn't want it to seem like what Dad was saying didn't matter. Also, I didn't want to end up arguing in front of my kids. Anyway, what would you do? I am happy to say though, that after I put them to bed, my husband and I sat down on the sofa and he said to me "I push him to much, don't I?" Of course, I then gave him my opinion and surprisingly he was not upset. I think he knew his fault. Looking back I think I do the same thing to my child in other situations. It seems different, now that I'm the outsider and seeing someone else do it. My heart breaks for my child.

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